I had to go through hardships, personal and work-related challenges, rejection, disappointments, pain and I endured a lot of struggles in life to be a strong, empowered and knowledgeable woman.

I have been gang raped, physically, verbally and emotionally abused. I was demoted, became broke, I had my car repossessed at work, I grieved the loss of my loved ones and I was in and out of hospital due to stress and depression.

Founder and Director of

Ruth Conversations NPC (NPO)
Rutheology Conversations (PTY) LTD

More on Ruth

Previous Experience

I have worked in the Public Sector, Department of Health in Gauteng for the past 19 years. From those years, 11 of them in Procurement and Contract Management Department.

I am Currently working as a Trauma Debriefing Counselor

My Expertise

Public / Motivational / Inspirational Speaker 

Trauma Debriefing & HIV-Lay Counselor

Coach and Mentor 


Facilitator, Assessor & Moderator

How can Ruth help you, have you ever experienced Trauma. What exactly is Trauma

Types of Trauma

Trauma Symptoms

Complex Trauma – It is often a result of repetitive direct harm and the effect increase as per interaction. It happens within a specific time or relationship.

Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) – is a mental health condition that’s triggered by a terrifying event either experiencing it or witnessing it. Sufferers of PTSD have persistent and frightening thoughts and memories of their ordeal.

Developmental Trauma Disorder – This disorder forms during a child’s first five years of life. The result of abuse, neglect, and/or abandonment, developmental trauma interferes with the infant or child’s neurological, cognitive, and psychological development. It disrupts the victim’s ability to attach to an adult caregiver. An adult who inflicts developmental trauma usually doesn’t do it intentionally, rather, it happens because they are not aware of the social and emotional needs of children.


Persistent feelings of sadness and despair


Unpredictable emotions

Physical symptoms, such as nausea and headaches

Intense feelings of guilt, as if they are somehow responsible for the event

An altered sense of shame

Feelings of isolation and hopelessness



Phalaphala 2nd August 2020 interview with Ms Lutendo Tshisikule

Market Place with Charlse Ngobeni

Lesedi One Two One


I was raped at a very tender age and that was unconsciously blocked in my mind for years. I never used to have problems till 2013 where i vividly remembered everything as it happened. 2014 it got worse, I remember one day in class this lecture was talking about rape and all and that’s when it hit me hard. I cried and told her what was going. Cutting the long story short, two lectures referred me to Ruth and she helped me to open up and face all the fears I had. One important thing I got from her words was learning to forgive as you not doing it for the other person but yourself. Today I talk about the incident to my friends and it doesn’t bother me anymore. Sometimes talking to someone who really understand what you went through helps a lot. So, I encourage all women out there to speak out because help is available.

I was in love with this guy & really love him. We almost spend four to five years together, not knowing that he never feels the same about me. After breakup, I didn’t know what to do, going through breakup is very difficult, emotional & stressful. I thought maybe I can’t live without him. I was depressed and lonely. Until I meet this lovely women Ruth. When she shares her story with us as a youth, is when I feel that, what am going through is nothing because they are people who are going through a lot in this life. Talking to someone who understand what you’re going through it helps. What I learn from her is that, Forgiveness is the best way to move on. There’s life after everything we are going thought, if we don’t give-up

Growing up with separated parents was not an easy path for me. I used to feel empty within, giving up to life every now and then. I did not have a relationship with my mother and that made me feel that she hates me…2015 I met Ruth at church, she used to talk to me more like she could see through me, that something was missing in my life…2017 She then invited me to come and talk to her that is where the Rutheology conversation counselling started..

It was more like a mother to son conversation ,I was more comfortable to talk to her than anyone else …she made me realise that I am a loving person who only just need to forgive my past…I did not have a relationship with my mother and that made me feel like my mother hates me. Rutheology conversations made me realise that my mother loved me; she just did not know how to live better with me. With no time I started to learn to communicate better with my mother and we grew to have a good relationship that a mother and son should have…I am uplifted and living my young life to the fullest all thanks to Rutheology conversations