I had to go through hardships, personal and work-related challenges, rejection, disappointments, pain and I endured a lot of struggles in life to be a strong, empowered and knowledgeable woman.

I have been gang raped, physically, verbally and emotionally abused. I was demoted, became broke, I had my car repossessed at work, I grieved the loss of my loved ones and I was in and out of hospital due to stress and depression.

Founder and Director of

Ruth Conversations NPC (NPO)
Rutheology Conversations (PTY) LTD

More on Ruth

Previous Experience

I have worked in the Public Sector, Department of Health in Gauteng for the past 19 years. From those years, 11 of them in Procurement and Contract Management Department.

I am Currently working as a Trauma Debriefing Counselor

My Expertise

Public / Motivational / Inspirational Speaker

Trauma Debriefing & HIV-Lay Counselor

Coach and Mentor 

Educator 

Facilitator, Assessor & Moderator

How can Ruth help you, have you ever experienced Trauma. What exactly is Trauma

Types of Trauma

Complex Trauma – It is often a result of repetitive direct harm and the effect increase as per interaction. It happens within a specific time or relationship.

Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) – is a mental health condition that’s triggered by a terrifying event either experiencing it or witnessing it. Sufferers of PTSD have persistent and frightening thoughts and memories of their ordeal.

Developmental Trauma Disorder – This disorder forms during a child’s first five years of life. The result of abuse, neglect, and/or abandonment, developmental trauma interferes with the infant or child’s neurological, cognitive, and psychological development. It disrupts the victim’s ability to attach to an adult caregiver. An adult who inflicts developmental trauma usually doesn’t do it intentionally, rather, it happens because they are not aware of the social and emotional needs of children.

Trauma Symptoms

Anger

Persistent feelings of sadness and despair

Flashbacks

Unpredictable emotions

Physical symptoms, such as nausea and headaches

Intense feelings of guilt, as if they are somehow responsible for the event

An altered sense of shame

Feelings of isolation and hopelessness

Interviews

Phalaphala 2nd August 2020 interview with Ms Lutendo Tshisikule

Market Place with Charlse Ngobeni

Lesedi One Two One

Testimonials

Rape

I was raped at a very tender age and that was unconsciously blocked in my mind for years. I never used to have problems till 2013 where i vividly remembered everything as it happened. 2014 it got worse, I remember one day in class this lecture was talking about rape and all and that’s when it hit me hard. I cried and told her what was going. Cutting the long story short, two lectures referred me to Ruth and she helped me to open up and face all the fears I had. One important thing I got from her words was learning to forgive as you not doing it for the other person but yourself. Today I talk about the incident to my friends and it doesn’t bother me anymore. Sometimes talking to someone who really understand what you went through helps a lot. So, I encourage all women out there to speak out because help is available.

Tsidi Nkanyane

Parental Challenges

Growing up with separated parents was not an easy path for me. I used to feel empty within, giving up to life every now and then. I did not have a relationship with my mother and that made me feel that she hates me…2015 I met Ruth at church, she used to talk to me more like she could see through me, that something was missing in my life…2017 She then invited me to come and talk to her that is where the Rutheology conversation counseling started..

It was more like a mother to son conversation ,I was more comfortable to talk to her than anyone else …she made me realise that I am a loving person who only just need to forgive my past…I did not have a relationship with my mother and that made me feel like my mother hates me. Rutheology conversations made me realise that my mother loved me; she just did not know how to live better with me. With no time I started to learn to communicate better with my mother and we grew to have a good relationship that a mother and son should have…I am uplifted and living my young life to the fullest all thanks to Rutheology conversations

Anonymous

Relationships

I was in love with this guy & really love him. We almost spend four to five years together, not knowing that he never feels the same about me. After breakup, I didn’t know what to do, going through breakup is very difficult, emotional & stressful. I thought maybe I can’t live without him. I was depressed and lonely. Until I meet this lovely women Ruth. When she shares her story with us as a youth, is when I feel that, what am going through is nothing because they are people who are going through a lot in this life. Talking to someone who understand what you’re going through it helps. What I learn from her is that, Forgiveness is the best way to move on. There’s life after everything we are going thought, if we don’t give-up

Hope

Life Challenges

Family, today I turn 52 years old . I can only see His Grace in my life.

Repeating Grade 6 and 12, having my son at age 21, but I had a supporting structure at home that stood by me until I graduated as a Secondary School Teacher in 1998.

After being Gang Rape by 3 guys in 1995 and keeping quiet for 17 years…

The year 2000 I moved to Gauteng to follow my sweetheart

2002 I got married In Community of Property, I also got a Permanent Job at the Department of Health in Gauteng.

In 2003 we bought our house in Kempton Park and also Registered an IT Bussines , I took Loans to kick start our bussines.

Abuse was always there, I just didn’t know it was abuse until I was admitted the first time for Anxiety & Stress , I was in and out of hospital due to stress and depression.

I was bullied, ashamed, targeted and demoted at work…

I grieved the loss of my loved ones (My Father, first born brother and Second born) I thank God I still have a mother who is 79 years old.

I had to give up my marriage with everything attached to it to save my heart.

2007… After divorce, being financially broke ( I lived on loans) , 2008 my car repossessed at work. My Son had to drop out of school because I could not afford to pay his fees.

In 2013 I decide to tell my family about the Rape and also that I want to start a the Ministry.
That’s how my Foundation was born. Rutheology: Ruth’s Conversations NPC Organizations was registered.

It was not easy to Heal and forgive those who have hurt and abused me but, because I had Friends, Family Coluegues, Pastors and Counselors on my side I made it,  it was a difficult journey indeed.

This life experiences changed me to be a Bitter, angry, resentful, full of worry, I always felt afraid, out of control and even made stupid decisions sometimes. I decided to put a wall around me, so that nobody can ever hurt or abuse me again.

I had to forgive my rapists even though they never said sorry. I had to let go of my House and bussines to get my peace. I had to forgive those who bullied me and Reject me even though they never said sorry. I was Accused of stealing other peoples husband’s, Accused of witch craft, I was told I was self centered and stupid by people i loved. I thank God Almighty for Healing me.

I resigned for my Government work in 2019 September just before the Covid – 19 Pandemic and moved back home to Limpopo, It was not easy but God has sustained us.

One thing I am confident about is God had a purpose for me to go through all that I went through. I just didn’t know it then. So be encouraged and don’t loose hope.

I now have an office, where I am helping all those who are Traumatized and Abused for free. We need more sponsors to do the work because it’s not doable with Financial assistance.

So family, Happy Birthday to me.

Ruth Munaka Mutsila